Most people aren’t living their lives—they’re chasing them.

They wake up each morning already in pursuit: titles, income, security, time, recognition. The promise is always the same—that once enough has been accumulated or achieved, satisfaction will finally arrive. But for most, that satisfaction never truly lands. It flickers briefly, then disappears behind the next obligation, the next expense, the next pressure.

Long days, commutes, artificial light, constant urgency. And when the work is done, much of what was earned is quietly siphoned away through taxes, rising costs, insurance, and inflation—another invisible tax - demanding more effort just to stay in place. What remains is often a thin margin of time, energy, and money that gets rationed carefully for small moments of relief. A weekend. A vacation. A drink. A distraction.

This has become so normalized that we rarely question it. Exhaustion is worn like a badge of honour. Stress is treated as the cost of adulthood. Dis-ease is managed rather than understood. Many people rely on medication, alcohol, or constant stimulation not because they are broken, but because their lives are fundamentally misaligned with how we humans are truly meant to live!

We are not built to chase happiness as happiness is not an external state; we are built to embody it. As co-creators and electromagnetic beings, life responds to our internal state first, not our effort. When we are coherent, aligned, and connected—to our bodies, to nature, to meaning—we draw opportunities, people, resources, and peace toward us. When we are disconnected, overstimulated, and perpetually striving, we repel the very things we are working so hard to obtain.

Living under unnatural light, cut off from the rhythms of nature and our own nervous systems, creates fragmentation. That fragmentation shows up as anxiety, illness, and burnout. This isn’t a personal flaw—it’s the predictable outcome of a system that rewards productivity over vitality and compliance over joy.

Do you wake up smiling? Do you feel deeply on purpose? Do you experience life meeting you with generosity and abundance?

Has success been misdefined as a title, income, busy-ness or how impressive you appear? What about how happy you are, how alive you feel or how much fun you’re having building you?

Aha! ~ Build a life you don’t need a vacation from

Happiness is not childish. Joy is not indulgent. Fun is not irresponsible. These states are signals of alignment, indicators that you are moving with life instead of against it. They strengthen the body, clarify the mind, and restore coherence to the nervous system. From that state, everything else flows more easily—relationships, creativity, income, contribution, and especially health.

Living unapologetically in your joy—choosing environments, work, rhythms, and relationships that support your best self—is not a luxury reserved for the few. It is the foundation of a life that actually works! 

Choosing better doesn’t mean choosing perfectly. It means refusing to keep normalizing what depletes you. It means raising your standard of existence to match the truth of who you are, rather than shrinking yourself to fit a system that was never designed for human flourishing.

You were not meant to earn rest, ration joy, or postpone aliveness for someday. You were meant to live well—NOW. To feel nourished by your days, not rescued from them.

When you choose your best self as the priority—not occasionally, not apologetically, but decisively—everything else reorganizes around that choice. Health strengthens. Clarity returns. Opportunities meet you precisely where you are.  And yes, it’s a choice.

Perhaps this season—with all its talk of peace, generosity, and goodwill—consider extending some of that- a big heap of that - kindness inward. Not as a one-time indulgence, but as a lifelong standard.  It’s time we measure success by how much fun we’re having.