Lately, I’ve been rethinking my relationship with the word goals. It’s starting to feel… outdated. Goals are often about chasing something “out there,” as if what we desire is separate from who we are. Alignment, on the other hand, feels magnetic — it’s about syncing what I want with who I’m becoming. Let me explain.

Taking us back to March of 2020 I bought a beautiful pre-construction condo: corner penthouse, three-bedroom, floor to ceiling windows, view of the Niagara escarpment, and where I planned to park myself when I wasn’t travelling. My big house where we housed the business and staff, raised my son and hosted many events no longer made sense. Construction on the condo was substantially delayed due to lockdowns, then late 2023 I decided that the unit was no longer in the cards for me. I faced two problems in releasing it; one was that I wanted to assign it preclosing and the contract with the builder restricted any advertisement, and two, condo prices were starting to slip. 

So, I went to work energetically picturing my buyer: a woman in her mid-fifties, a professional, truly lovely individual who was happy to pay a fair price to transfer title. Every morning I would go outside, read my Aha! Moment Manifesto, then envision handing over the key, she and I smiling in enthusiasm and elated with our transaction.  I drove the realtors nuts for months asking them to play along. 

Three weeks before closing, we did not have a buyer and my agent begged me to apply for a mortgage or cash in investments to close … I said no.  I held my vision.  The following week a buyer arrived in the same brokerage through a different agent.  You guessed it: a woman in her mid-fifties, professional, a truly lovely individual.  The builder had some minor delays which gave us extra time to put our deal together. The new owner and I met at the penthouse apartment when the deal was done and the penthouse ready for inspection.  I arrived first, gave her a tour, then we hugged and smiled, the realtor took a big sigh of relief and congratulated us both.  The only element that didn’t play out exactly as I envisioned was that since the locking system was keyless, I chose to give the buyer a housewarming gift instead.

We sometimes forget that we’re not just flesh and willpower; we’re electromagnetic beings — literal communication stations wired for transmission and reception. Every neuron, every thought, every emotion sends a signal. Our nervous systems hum between fear and possibility like a tuning dial between two radio stations. The question isn’t whether the Universe is listening… it’s whether we’re clear enough in our signal for it to recognize what’s being asked.

In 2004 my (then) goal card began with, “I am so happy and grateful now that I have perfect health …. “ and ended with “…. and $1.2 million in my bank account by December 15th.”

That date came. Nothing. Came again the next year. Still nothing. Then on December 12th, 2007 a client called. They were launching a new program and asked for my help. Their opening order? You guessed it — exactly $1.2 million.

In both circumstances, and thousands of others in between, I mentally and emotionally began living in the place of having achieved the outcome…preparing my receiver.  It’s a switching out from goals to alignment.  It feels truer. Calmer. More attuned. Because when you’re aligned, you’re not running after things. You’re transmitting the frequency of what you want — and life starts rearranging itself around that broadcast.

Here’s the self-sabotage trap we (yes, even I) can fall into:  We’re the ones keeping score. We’re the ones trimming our requests down to what we think we “deserve.” We’ve been conditioned to play small — to call it humility, responsibility, or being realistic.  But what’s real? What do you really want?

Aha! ~ The Universe doesn’t have a budget.

From the moment we’re born, systems train us to stay inside the lines — schools, parents, media, government, the endless hum of “be grateful you even have this.” Gratitude matters, yes — but not when it becomes the velvet cage that keeps us thanking the warden for the scraps.

Neuroscience tells us our brains are prediction machines. Your brain will predict reality based on what you’ve been programmed to expect. If you’ve been taught to expect “just enough,” – and you buy in and reinforce that belief ongoingly - your brain literally filters out evidence of more. It can’t see opportunities beyond its prediction model. You don’t notice what you don’t believe is possible.

How does it feel to walk around with mental firewalls justified by fear… firewalls installed by repetition, reinforced by systems that quietly profit from your perceived limitation?

Beneath that conditioning, there’s something ancient humming in you — that magnetic frequency of creation itself. It doesn’t know “too much.” It doesn’t have a ledger. It only knows alignment.

The day I got that $1.2 million call, I realized I hadn’t been denied before — I’d been preparing my receiver. That’s when the emotional static finally cleared enough for reality to match the broadcast.

Oh, and I no longer get hung up on dates because the Universe always delivers right on schedule – I simply declare that my timing is impeccable. Six months after I assigned my apartment, condo sales fell by 50% and prices by 25%.

The calendar doesn’t predict alignment, your signal does.  So, the question isn’t what you’re trying to get, but what you’re consistently broadcasting.

Begin by knowing that you deserve it all.

Ah, another long one!  I have plenty of stories like these two yet still sometimes allow the external limiting powers to harness my desires.  Let’s talk about it in Human U.  HERE is the direct zoom link to join us FREE this week!  4:30 EDT Wednesday April 1st.